Why some women depend on their men....

I have to say it like it is... this week, I have sit back and watched my friends tell me how they had to do this and that for their guy or wait for him to pick them up, etc. I mean i've been there, and you fall in love and you don't want to seperate for them. And when you do seperate, you feel like you have ran out of air to breathe and just can't be or function without them. But to tell you the truth, from what I have learned, if you are depending like that on someone then you need to let go of them. No one should be with someone that has them right where they want them. That has them waiting by the phone for their call or needs their boyfriend to drive them places or pay for their bills. WHat happen to independant women?? That's why I love NE-YO's "miss independant" and "She got her own", he knowns about real women and respects them for being that way and doesn't try to buy them or rule them. I worry for my friends because some men seem nice nd wanting to take care fo their women, but then turn around and control them or even worse, beat them because they can. I have friends that went through that too. It's not a pretty sight and you don't even know what to say after that. And you definitely don't want to say at that moment "I told you so", because it's too late for it. There are some women out there that have very low self esteem that they just rather stay by their guy than be with family or even friends. Then those are the women who are left alone or end up being in abusive relationships. I think women shouldn't have to depend on any guy or anyone else but themselves. If we let our guard down, then we show that we are weak and will attract men that are controling and like weak women. Not all men are like this, but there is a percentage.It just relly bothers me and I wish I didn't know girls like that. If you know someone like that, don't ignore them. Hear or help them out bec uase sometimes they need someone to open their eyes or just help them get out of that slump that they are in. They need a reminder of how strong and independant they can be again. if you end up alone, it will be ok, I know this for a fact. I wish some women didn't depend on their men so much. Then there would be equality and no one would over power any one else.

I don't have any kids why should I have to take care of Nadya Suleman's babies???

Nayda Suleman, or as everyone knows her as the women who had 8 babies a month ago, has caused quite a controversy. Not only did she give birth to 8 babies, but she already had 6 children before that. I mean who does this woman think she is? Well now in days, apparently she is idolizing her role model Angelina Jolie. How scary that she looks just like her and using tax payers money on her surgeries and to feed her children. Most people consider this woman a MONSTER! I do too. If you can not take care of the 6 children you already have by yourself, what makes you think that you can support 8 more children?! i'M sure many people want to know exactly what goes on in that woman's small brain. How and why did Suleman decide to have all 14 children by herself and with no help from any man. It's not like she couldn't find a good man to marry and have children with. So because of her actions, the state of California's taxpayers will be supporting these children in the absentence of their fathers. Is that fair? Did the people who are in her life and knew how many babies she was about to give birth to, try to stop her from making a huge mistake or is this a cry for help and publicity. It seems a bit of a publicity act because for the past month, that's all the news seems to talk about. Now there have been death threats to Suleman because there are people out there who feel that what she did is horrible, is exploiting those poor children the wrong way, and do not feel that they should pay to feed her babies. Suleman is an able woman who can work and take care of her children and does not need others money. She brought this upon herself, she should be able to resolve this problem by herself. Think of all those women out there who re not able to conceive a child of their own or that their partner can not fertile. Do you think they should have to contribute for the children thhis woman had and that they were not able to have? I think not and if I ever met her, she would need a new nose job!

to see disturbing pictures of her and interviews, click on links below:

http://www.cnn.com/2009/SHOWBIZ/TV/02/17/killeen.qanda/index.html

http://ecochildsplay.com/2009/02/12/photos-of-octuplet-mother-nadya-suleman-pregnant/

The day that I dread most every year.... Valentine's Day

Well as you all know, it's that time of the year again. When you go to any store and you are walking and looking for what you need when you come across an aisle with hearts and objects that are in pink, red, and purple. Yup you guessed it, Valentine's day is approaching. Valentine's day is a day loved by most, well the ones who are in love or something like that. Then there are those who do not like Valentine's day, like me, and dread it when it approaches. Thank god it only comes once a year, but some people take it too seriously and celebrate the whole month of February. Most guys dread it because they have to go out and buy something girly or try to figure out what their girlfriend might want. While girls go out and buy outfits and get glammed up and make plans if their boyfriend hasn't already. It's just too much to stress over for one day, don't you think? Then there are those who don't have a Valentine and get depressed over it. Well don't be! Go out and make the best of it. Make plans with friends who don't have Valentine's either and do something non-valentineish. Try to stray from restaurants and movie theaters with romantic movies. If you are one of those who rather be alone, then rent a movie or do something to keep your mind off what day it is. Whether you are or are not celebrating this Hallmark invented holiday... just keep in mind it's only one day. Make the best of it, celebrate it with others or just make it an I LOVE ME DAY!